Wednesday, July 20, 2011

So when do you get married anyways? (A blatantly honest post)

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  1. Last night, I had almost the same conversation with the supposed didn't go down well at all, blog-snooping and I find this new post about fears to get married.

    I'm damned scared of getting married!

    ....but do we have a choice?

  2. At Musco: That is exactly my point!!!Has it come down to getting married simply bcos 'we don't have a choice'...there ought to be a finer motivation!lol!

  3. Weell, If you cant't find any reason to get married, then don't!

    Or is there pressure from some quarters to do so?

  4. Musco, yes you have a choice.
    A choice to devote your time to your career and any/every other thing that tickles your fancy.

    A choice to excel at every other thing and not make yourself, your partner and the kids that 'may' be produced miserable.

    A choice to be celebate and do other exploits (think Pope John Paul)

    BUT THEN...

    Why pass on the chance of companionship for the rest of ur life...

    Carefully seasoned soup on the stove when after a tough day u drag in ur weary feet?

    The chance to turn the house your hard earned money's paying for into a home?

    The possibilty of a listening ear, a caring/loving heart, a shoulder to share the burden...

  5. There's no 'right' time to get married, other than that time when you're sure you've found the one you want to run the race, jump the hurdles and crawl throught the tunnel of life with!

    Its a personal decision... just as u arent, ur 'supposed' soulmate wont be perfect but u'll embark on the journey only after u're sure u're ready to accept their imperfections

    Age in not a determinant of the timing, neither is family/peer pressure. When u're certain u know WHO YOU ARE, WHO YOU WANT and you find her and she's willing, then make the move...

    Unfortunately, after all is said and done, marriage is still not for everyone!

  6. You get married when you are ready to get married. Simples.

    Dont let societal expectations pressurize you into making a lifetime commitement you're not ready for.

    However, i must say that it appears there's some unresolved commitment issues lurking in there somewhere.....

    Maybe you sholud address that, and then move on.

  7. Marriage is not for everyone.

    I honestly thought I would never get married. When I was younger, I was very career focused and a bit of a tomboy. To be honest, I felt marriage was a waste of time AND it led to women compromising too much - 'losing' themselves in their role as mother/wife/carer

    However, when I met my hubby, I knew this was someone I had to be with.....

    So, if the person is will not want to lose her to someone else.

  8. a song comes to mind... "when will you marry? this year, next year..." i think it was Julius Agwu fooling around in the studio!!! hehehe

    You will be fine...

  9. There is no right time to get married...marriage is not for everyone and why the hell can I relate to this post.

    I am damn scared of getting married.

  10. So the answer you've been looking for is "when you find her". It doesn't depend on when you're done with all the things you carved out for yourself. Seriously it shouldn't, when you see your wife, all you'll want to do is get married. That being said, I feel so sorry for this your certain company of 'lab rats'.

    In as much as I'd want to say that you should focus on the things that are important to you and forget about that until when the time is right, I still want to say that I hope you find her soon though 'cos it seems it has become a disturbing thought for you. All the best with that!