I have recently stumbled on JdB's blog,
(which is my march review for the 14-for-14 challenge), and his blog
fondly got me reminiscing about that 80's t.v show #Wonder years. JdB's blog
is a form of diarised reflections about his own #wonder years of
growing
up and navigating the often confusing terrains of youth. His train
of thoughts easily depict the typical Nigerian youth, so it's easy to
recognize his experiences and follow through without getting lost. I
like that his blog does not assume to be your Dalai Lama guide to
eternal fulfilment, but instead prompts you to recall and draw useful
insight from your own forgotten experiences such as cringy teenage
crushes or about....
Catching Feelings...#CF.
I never liked that phrase
'Catching Feelings'. Maybe because the imagery that quickly comes
to mind is...a self obsessed girl of reasonable allurement...delivering a
corky warning to some hapless young man who has grown comfortable with his
interractions with her. She would be smacking chewing gum noisily, with a small grin teasing the side of her lips and squeal... "Don't tell me you're catching feelings for me?!"
#In
situations like this, I always feel deeply sorry for the person on the
receiving end of that coffin-nailing statement. Because
the state of #CF is a torturous place to be in. Wild emotions that gun
straight for your soul and puts down anchor to the most vulnerable
artery of your already sensitive heart. Making you become a
self-professed poet of sorts, talking
deep gibberish about how her presence carries eternal rays of sunshine
that makes your heart dance...and the most troubling part being that,
you truly mean every single word.
#CF is like a
beautifully wretched sickness with no easy cure, except to allow the
virus run its due course through your system; ravage every shred of
common sense within you and reduce you to a worm of a person. Do you
remember...dissecting every interaction with that person, and sifting
through every conversation in an unending desperate search for
reciprocated affection. And the build-up to that eventful moment when
you finally build up the courage to have that weighty "conversation".
When subservient and senseless, you
hand over the last bit of your self esteem, and confess to someone that....
#I'm going crazy crazy, just thinking about you babay...(cue some throwback K-Ci & JoJo).
And how her response changed everything....
Thanks to JdB's blog,
i cringed today with a chuckle as i vividly recalled being in this
situation and can properly conclude that when you truly catch feelings,
you are done
for...a proper #Gobe situation indeed.
P.S: If you find yourself drowing in #CF, a useful tip is found in...Counting ten blue-eyed Bambi(s) before indulging any sort of emotional response.
So, You should check out JdB's blog and drop a friendly comment for the following reasons:
1. The fact that one of his random posts inspired this quickie: #Catching Feelings.
2. The fact that i can count on one hand the
number of guy-blogs herein on blogger and somedays
it's like walking around a lingerie departmental store in here.
***************************************************************** Intro: The 14-for-14 challange by Janyl. (Click here to familiarize yourelf with the '14 for 14 challenge').
I recently accepted this challenge to
go on a quest searching for brand new blogs...with the bull-headed
conviction that all creativty is not lost within the nigeria-blogsphere.
And also desperate to prove that, contrary to recently popular opinion,
not all of the new blog pages are uninteresting (to put it mildly). This is my fourth post into that journey.
I was up late last night building an amazing Pricing model - a very impressive work of art, if I dare say so.
Somewhere in the middle of all that headache, I had an idea about falling in love.
Don't ask me about the correlation between love and financial markets,
Because I bet you I can build you a model on that too.
Anyways, in summary, a pricing model is a fancy algorithm that predicts prices in the financial markets.
The main building block of a model are what we call 'factors'.
So, you throw in a bunch of hopefully 'relevant factors', fit a statistical curve and if you've done your maths right, your model should be a fairly accurate tool for predicting the future.
Now you can go into the world and make some money.
I think falling in love is a lot like building a pricing model.
And I think the best time to build your model is when you are young, naive and fairly inexperienced.
Here's my simple reason why:
Too many factors in your model spoil its accuracy.
When I was young, my formular for love was simple - emotional connection, faith, and fair looks.
Those were the simple building blocks on which I predicted the future of my relationship.
And thinking about it today, it was more than enough.
The older and wiser we get, the more complicated the whole thing becomes.
Until you are staying up till stupid hours, with a confusion induced headache, wondering about choices and randomly testing three thousand and forty odd factors in a gambling space of mathematical probabilities.
Here's what it looks like:
She is so witty, i could listen to her talk all night whilst i get lost staring into those baby blues...
Sounds like a good factor, so you frantically hurry back to your model and...#Fit, Test, Fail!
Gosh I love his self confidence, the way his voice commands attention and his charm, ooh, his charm..
That should be a good factor too...Quick, quick, #Fit, Test, Fail!
You get my drift...
I think many people are like me in that lone office space at 2am,
Staring with eccentric hope at an inanimate computer screen
With a bunch of daft factors scattered about our lives
Making the same frantic mistake over and over again
Fit, test, fail, Fit, test, fail...arghhhh, somebody just make it work!
So, three billion people on the face of your planet, multiply that by a sample space of forty odd factors per person.
Your assignment - choose and fit your best 'factors' and pick one person!
Even for the best model builders, it's a fool's errand nightmare!
And I doubt God intended the whole process to be that complicated.
Hence, as i wrapped up my own modelling exercise, I concluded that, in effect the formular is simple:
#Less is more, and that's just ok.
So here's my uncomplicated conclusion:
Choose your best and three easiest factors.
E.g, emotional connection, faith, and fair looks.
Fit your curve, allow yourself fall in love, leave the rest to fate and #get out of the office!
It is afterall, a game of chance, good fortune and mathematical probabilities.
